Behind the Scenes: How I Stopped Fighting the Map and Started Playing the Game

Hey adventurers 

I want to share something real with you today - something that changed the way I approach everything. (And no, it’s not a new mount, though I wish.)

For a long time, I was stuck in what I now lovingly call the "Should Spiral."
You know the vibe:
“This shouldn’t be happening.”
“People shouldn’t act this way.”
“My life should look different by now.”

I kept trying to force reality to match the imaginary questline in my head - as if sheer willpower or dramatic monologues could patch the game and give me the ending I wrote.

Spoiler: it didn’t work.
It just drained my emotional mana bar and left me resentful, tired, and stuck in place.

What finally shifted?

🛑 I stopped fighting the map.
✅ I started learning how to navigate it.

I stopped yelling at life for not going according to plan and started making better plans.
I traded control-freak energy for strategic persistence.
I got honest about what I can control (spoiler: mostly myself) and put my focus there.

Here’s what that looks like IRL:  Planning like a strategist, not a perfectionist.
📅 Using my planner as a quest log, not a guilt trap.
💪 Showing up consistently, even when it’s not pretty or perfect.

And you know what?
Once I let go of the “shoulds,” I finally started making progress.
Not because life got easier, but because I stopped wasting energy fighting reality and started working with it.

There’s a kind of quiet power in learning to move forward anyway - to stick with your vision, even when the path’s foggy and the respawn point feels far away.

So if you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or like you’ve been rage-quitting your own goals lately…
I see you.
You’re not broken.
You might just be trying to control a game that was never meant to play by your rules.

Instead - let’s get better at the game we actually have.
And trust me, when you start planning like a strategist and letting go of the need to bend the world to your expectations?
You become dangerously effective.

Thanks for being here, and for being the kind of people I want in my party. 🧡

Drop a 🗺️ in the comments if this one resonates - and let me know what you’re navigating right now. Maybe I can help you find a new route through it.

Judy
Your Life Coach + Raid Strategist

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